Nacho Average Padres
The 'Nacho Average Padres' podcast is a discussion between two millennial fathers, Ryan McDonald and Robb Moreira, on their upbringing and parenting styles versus what's been done in the past from their parents. They come together and examine each topic from how they treat our homes, to shaving rituals, to even video game therapy sessions to name just a few. It's a familiar, but yet different approach to how fatherhood is viewed as it's through the lens of a millennial dad (under 40 years old at that!). What the boys discuss are for a generation that's starting their parental journey or already has young children. This podcast is dedicated to millennial dads making a difference in this hectic world we call life. Whether you are a single parent or married, we all can relate to each other on this podcast. Enjoy the two least likely representatives of an entire generation as they navigate through the struggles just us young dads have in common. It's about time someone talked about us! Keep an eye out for the next episode!
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Finding love, Digitally
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Looking for love is quite challenging and is not something that anyone can do on their own. That's why dating apps have been created to make that process easier for those who are seeking love ever after or one night stand (not the furniture piece). Join Ryan and Robb as these two married men step out of their comfort zone to talk about dating apps that they've never used before. Any fathers out there ever used one of these apps to find your happily ever after? Wait, there's a dating app for married people to use to commit adultery? Shame on you.
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00:37.52
Ryan McDonald:
Hey there fellow Padres and friends welcome back to the Nacho Average Padres podcast. We're gonna talk about everything related to the millennial dad as it should be. I’m your host Ryan and we're going to take a different approach to today's topic because as a married gentleman I've already found the love of my life. But for others they're still trying to find that special someone. However, it's not through the conventional methods anymore dating sites. Apps and social media has played cupid for just about everyone nowadays so on this episode instead of being on the in and looking out we be on the out looking within. I'm joined tonight by another married gentleman who will help me break down today's dating world and it is none other than my co-host Robb, how's it going man?
01:38.79
Robb Moreira:
Hey what's happening brother.
01:40.56
Ryan:
Hey, I am peachy how are you man?
01:46.67
Robb
I'm good ready to ah you know, chat about these dating apps because I don't get it. I Guess in the simplest way I could say, I don't get them.
01:50.91
Ryan:
Yeah I don't, I agree hundred percent like no one just goes to the bar and just takes a chance anymore?
02:03.98
Robb
I mean, I don't know like it's just you hear so many stories and yeah, I mean you know it's, I don't know, it's just I mean it's still a stranger.
02:08.47
Ryan:
Right? Well and then that's a great segue because it is dangerous as.
02:19.84
Ryan:
Because, I mean it could be a fake picture. You could be like, ah Jonathan looks nice. And then that's not Jonathan when you go finally to the place.
02:21.95
Robb
I mean, granted, in person. It's still a stranger. It's just I don't know, it’s just weird layers. Right? It's like oh it's not Jonathan. It's actually Jason and Jonathan was his old roommate who looked better than he did and I'm stuck you know like, ah crap, you know I mean?
02:38.92
Ryan:
Ah, oh no.
02:45.83
Robb
I don't know there's just so many ways things can go left and I guess that's really where we hear so many stories is like I mean, and granted, you know for some people it works out. You know, I have a colleague and in my biz that's how she found her husband actually.
02:53.82
Ryan:
Right? No, there are happy stories.
03:03.21
Ryan:
Um, that’s cool.
03:05.79
Robb
Now though, granted she does standup a bit that she did. She doesn't do it frequently. But the few times that she has where she talks about going on a hundred online dates and.
03:20.42
Ryan:
Alright.
03:23.37
Robb
She tracked every single one on a spreadsheet and she had like names for these guys and like, oh man, it was a trip just hearing her stories about all these dates because some of them were fricking weird.
03:27.89
Ryan:
Oh no.
03:36.38
Ryan:
Whoa.
03:38.99
Robb
And it's just like oh man this is just so nuts. Um, but again a happy ending. She found her husband. Um, but it's just I was like man like a 100 dates. Can you imagine that 100 unique dates like different people all different guys?
03:42.20
Ryan:
right, right.
03:50.83
Ryan:
Yeah, Wow.
03:57.23
Robb
And like every single one was like you know somewhere like you know, boring and like whatever just no connection. But there were some that were really like out there. I think she said she went on a date with 1 where a guy showed up in his pajamas, like what? Like what?I don't know.
04:09.19
Ryan:
Um, was he a college student or something? Ah, granted.
04:17.20
Robb
So like how does that even like why would that be like I don't know like I don't get that like what synapse in your head didn't fire for you to put on like proper clothes I don't get it.
04:28.44
Ryan:
I mean granted, he maybe, he didn't have a mirror in this house.
04:30.87
Robb
Um, you could look down! You don't need a mirror to see that that you, oh crap! I left my pajamas on like what?
04:42.88
Ryan:
Maybe he didn't have, maybe he was just running late and then he was like “oh shit! Well if she digs me, she's gonna dig these pjs man.” I'm still, like, there is, ah, there's people who found love through World of Warcraft.
04:49.34
Robb
Yeah, seriously.
04:59.43
Robb
This is true. That's actually happened quite a bit. Yeah yeah, granted not a dating app. But I mean it goes to show you that like digitally um, you know that is a means especially now.
05:02.20
Ryan:
Like yeah like they've found each other and then played and conquered. No yeah.
05:17.56
Robb
You know how you know connected people are nowadays that it wouldn't be a surprise for that to happen. Granted Wow has been around for forever, forever. So you know I mean there's but they were bound to be stories like that.
05:25.00
Ryan:
Um, ever man. Um, no, and it's I mean the happy ones I mean that you at least hear right.
05:36.50
Robb
Yeah, well makes for an interesting relationship where you're both like I would assume in the same room playing Wow for hours on end and you know being married in real life and potentially married in the game.
05:54.76
Ryan:
Um, oh man, how awkward would that be like?
05:55.80
Robb
Or something I don't know I don't know how it works I know because I know people because I know people can like you know and like not to say you can get married and married in the game but I know people sometimes like role play as their characters kind of like.
06:08.65
Ryan:
Um, oh boy. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
06:11.99
Robb
You know, kind of like if you're playing you know dungeons and dragons. But it it's dawn wow and like people speak like their characters would or something like that I wouldn't be surprised if there something like that. Yeah, like it's like have it's like being in 2 relationships with the same person.
06:20.24
Ryan:
Um, that's Steve.
06:25.85
Ryan:
Um, so is it adultery if you're caught with somebody else in WoW. Ah.
06:31.55
Robb
Well my question well see I have the different question if you get pissed off at each other in real life. Do you guys go into the fake world and like does it bleed is there bleed you know is there bleed over or like or is like no are we are in this world and we.
06:40.30
Ryan:
Um, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's such a great question.
06:47.76
Robb
Absolutely love each other too bad for our human avatars like how does that work. You know I mean or or does it bleed in the reverse like you know you guys are having dinner you know, like you guys are having dinner and they're like I can't believe you didn’t and help me respawn.
06:49.42
Ryan:
Um, that is such a, oh man. That's such a great question like do you? Ah yeah.
07:06.42
Ryan:
I couldn't honey.
07:06.93
Robb
Like you know I mean like some so this like I can't believe I can't believe you didn't let me get that lo you knew I needed that like ah you know I'm saying like how awkward like that would make some interesting conversations.
07:11.76
Ryan:
Um, ah, that's so messed up that would that would oh man and then being the friends invited over for that dinner and they're talking about that even more awkward.
07:26.39
Robb
Um, it's like what's wrong like why are you guys like so well this bitch didn't give me the freaking light armor that I that she knew I needed you know I mean like well he's just being a jerk.
07:30.98
Ryan:
Right.
07:38.47
Ryan:
You are? Are you guys serious.
07:43.50
Robb
He knows my rogue needed it more than his warrior did like what is happening good I know I'm telling you like that I like it I feel like it must I feel like that conversation has to have happened right.
07:54.23
Ryan:
Has to has to and we can't fathom it because we have. We're not friends with anybody like that I wish I was right? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
08:02.21
Robb
Well yeah, yeah, exactly ah right? Not neither are our wives gamers like that you know I mean like you know there's a nice kind of separation there. You know I mean yeah, absolutely like.
08:12.00
Ryan:
Yes, exactly there is a healthy separation. They have their own thing we have ours I mean its Target sir, I'm going to go to a stroll to target.
08:17.89
Robb
Exactly like gaming is my territory Target is my wife's no ah indeed it is quite the fancy place.
08:31.44
Robb
It was on sale, Nah good.
08:31.85
Ryan:
Right? Back to talk was it red tagged Oh man that would that would be such an interesting ah an interesting Dilemma. Oh man. But I mean outside of the gaming world at least so they are you know there are like ah eHarmony there's guys that are trying to find a forever you know year forever someone this match.
08:59.30
Robb
There's a lot of them. Yeah I mean yeah, there's I mean matches match is probably the biggest None right or more so most successful I know e harmony is like right up there I think I think those are like the big top None and then there's like you know.
09:08.24
Ryan:
Um, yeah I think probably. Um, yeah for sure.
09:20.72
Robb
Blender dating services like you know Tinder is notoriously known for hookups more so on you know on the gay side of things I know that was really popular for a while you know oh sorry you're right, you know more than I do clearly? Yes.
09:23.71
Ryan:
Um, yeah. Um, okay I thought that was grinder but well I mean I've been Educated. Um.
09:39.56
Robb
Grinder was the one my apologies for any tinderites out there but Tinder like I mean that I know right? I mean that that I could tell Tinder seemed like a hookup location and then and then you got you.
09:46.26
Ryan:
You are screwed.
09:51.38
Ryan:
Um, well it is as far as I understand which are no.
09:56.31
Robb
Yeah, and then you got your Christian mingle if you're looking for Christians and then you got I think I think it's called Jew date and I think it's if you're Jewish and you're looking for another Jewish person. It's something like that I know there's a Jewish one. There's a farmer one? Yeah yeah, there is.
10:08.91
Ryan:
Um, oh yeah I was just going to say there's a farmer's one farmers only I think right.
10:15.62
Robb
Right? Something like that. Forget the name but I know there's a farmer's one. There's the there's an Asian one I Forget the name of that one but I know I've seen the Asian one those are the only ones that I know Offhand but there's I mean you know there's so many different variety. Oh and then there's the you know.
10:19.94
Ryan:
Um, yeah. Um, ah, there's so many.
10:35.60
Robb
Notorious Ashley Madison which is for people in relationships looking for hookups. Yeah, it's a yeah, it's a dating site for people looking to cheat like that's like that's it's like hook.
10:38.57
Ryan:
Um, oh really I didn't even know that existed. Wow wow Jesus.
10:52.35
Robb
Is like hey you want you want you know confidentiality and you want to cheat on your significant other. Well so does everybody else on this side. So ah so find someone hook up and keep it moving. Yeah yeah, that's crazy. Yeah I was like that's so wild I mean granted.
10:58.96
Ryan:
Um, so come join us Oh my God I can't no way.
11:12.42
Robb
They're not doing anything wrong per say in terms of legalities. It's just it's morally awful I It is like yeah like morally it's is awful like God awful. But.
11:12.57
Ryan:
Um, no, they're just offering that service. Yeah yeah, oh no, yeah fuck virtues I mean throw and shit out the window. But. Ah, Jesus.
11:31.25
Robb
But yeah, it's crazy when I None heard about Ashley Madison I was like no way this is a thing. Yeah, yeah, it's I mean it's a thing ash yeah Ashley Madison and it's funny too because I was like.
11:35.77
Ryan:
Um I didn't even know that existed. Yeah, that's a thing and it's called Ashley Madison
11:48.20
Robb
You know, like when I first heard about it I was kind of you know, shocked and appalled you know, but then I then I quickly shifted to well you know what? Yeah that makes sense somebody had to create this.
11:53.14
Ryan:
Um, of as innocent as we would be. Um, yeah, right.
12:03.84
Robb
You know somebody had to make money off this idea like this is a moneymaking idea if I ever heard one. You know, um and then um and then you know then and then the next phase was crap. Why didn't I think about that I could have been a millionaire? But oh you know? So such life. Yeah.
12:07.13
Ryan:
Um, yeah, no awful. Yeah, yeah, it's not like you're the business woman or person isn't doing anything Wrong. You know they are just providing a service hey exactly.
12:20.59
Robb
You know I'm saying I'm like I don't care. It's like I don't care if you cheat I'm just I'm just I'm just connecting you people me and I'm saying like I'm providing a service like anybody else I'm like sure I don't I don't mind making money off ah off of infidelity people are awful I'm okay with this.
12:34.94
Ryan:
Um, yeah, ah.
12:37.90
Robb
They're being awful I'm being awful by exploiting their awfulness. Well, who cares? we're all, we're all happy sinners. Let's do it. Ah.
12:41.16
Ryan:
Um, yes, well I mean then there's the philosophical question of are they actually awful or are they just a smart business person.
12:48.72
Robb
Well true I mean well you know? Well yeah I mean for the person running the place. Yes I would agree the people cheating Yes, they're awful I mean there's no if sayings or butts about that. Um, but because.
12:58.37
Ryan:
Um, correct.
13:03.12
Robb
Ashley Madison is catered to people that are in relationships that are looking to cheat that are not looking to get caught so clearly it's not catered to people I mean not to say they can't use it but people that are like in open relationships obviously don't count. You know they are very knowing and willingly.
13:16.53
Ryan:
Um, right, right? Right. Engaging. Yes.
13:22.57
Robb
You know, being with other partners because they're significant others understand and also participate so it is what it is I I would say you know hey listen you know you do what you want in your relationship. You know I got you know? No no, no yeah no I got no judgment on that.
13:28.12
Ryan:
Um, that's putting it nicely. Um.
13:35.74
Ryan:
Um, right right? Yeah, no judgment here sort of I mean if so there's there's 2 different sides because I feel like if you are just dating and you just want.
13:41.67
Robb
I got no dog in that race.
13:52.36
Ryan:
Shit on the side then okay I guess do your thing but I mean you're full-fledged married right? You've committed vows.
13:54.38
Robb
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, like actually yeah, no Ashley Madison is very much catering to people in presumably committed relationships I e marriage or.
14:05.11
Ryan:
Um, ah while this is even worse. Ah, geez.
14:09.79
Robb
Something you know level levels below that? Yeah no, it's bad. Yeah, it's ah yeah, it's yeah, its pretty nuts hey listen somebody was gone somebody had to make the idea.
14:20.97
Ryan:
Well I mean like you said somebody had to make it.
14:26.78
Ryan:
Um, you know the thing is that even though they probably say confidentiality you know more times than not the guys are the ones that are still getting caught than the women because guys are freaking dumb.
14:27.91
Robb
You know.
14:39.28
Robb
Yeah, probably yeah I wouldn't be I wouldn't be well Yeah, ah yeah, it would be something stupid like he forgot to log out and the wife jumped on his computer and boom there. It is like it'd be so like it'd be a dumb way.
14:45.20
Ryan:
The app would be right on the homepage. Ah.
14:53.55
Ryan:
Um, who's Tiffany. Yeah, yeah, that's when you're going to create a homework folder. Ah there you go there, you go.
14:57.60
Robb
Yeah, what's Ashley Madison oh and there you go. That's that relationship ruined because you know but good job Ryan show, show people how to cheat properly. Ah.
15:12.80
Ryan:
From a man who does not do it just stressing that out I will never ever ever do this hey no leave my hope folder alone. It has legit homework in it. Ah.
15:14.12
Robb
There you go ah or does he look for the homework folder on his computer. There's there are many and many gigs of I wonder what.
15:32.50
Ryan:
Ah, of homework. Ah I study a lot that's cool. Um I.
15:32.91
Robb
Oh.
15:38.20
Robb
Blueprints Robb blueprints. My yeah, yeah, yeah, so that the those are the only ones that I know um I wouldn't be surprised if there are other ones for like more you know specific groups.
15:52.49
Ryan:
I'm sure there's more I mean they have they made an app where if ah I mean this is not as tasteful as the one we just discussed but. It's one where you just download. Um, just to find someone that you want to date and then once you find that person delete the app, I forget. I remember seeing advertisements on the Subway going into the city. But it's I think it's sort of an ‘H’.
16:14.50
Robb
Um, um oh boy, oh boy by the way so I did a quick Google on just like all dating sites that exist whoa. There are there.
16:23.30
Ryan:
For life me I can't think of it. But ah oh, oh my god how many Jesus I ah is ‘okay cupid’ on there.
16:33.25
Robb
There are a lot. Oh ‘plenty of fish’ that I've heard of that one. Oh ‘ok cupid’ oh my god so there's the ‘Christian mingle’ and there's ‘catholic match’. Oh my good gravy.
16:41.93
Ryan:
I've heard of that one.
16:45.91
Ryan:
No way aren't they the same god damn thing as I say that in sin ah nice nice
16:52.65
Robb
They are not oh the, oh the Jewish one is ‘J date’. That's what it is ‘J date. Yeah oh look at this Muslim ‘Muslimma’ is for people in the Muslim community ah ‘elite singles’.
17:04.60
Ryan:
Oh there's a muslim one? Okay wow, that's interesting, Jesus. Ah oh my god now I could get a hookup.
17:11.00
Robb
“Aimed at Professionals”, Oh God ‘Senior match’ for older folks. Oh my good and they also have them called ‘Silver Singles’, I love it. Oh my God I found one called ‘large friends’.
17:21.34
Ryan:
Um, that's like a vitamin. Um, nice ah who knew.
17:28.92
Robb
And it's for the Bb w b h m lovers. Oh my, yo there's a dating site for everything ‘military cupid’. Holy there's so many ‘fitness singles’. Ah holy, ma girl.
17:38.73
Ryan:
No wow 5 a single I probably on that one. Hey, she gonna spot me, what.
17:48.11
Robb
And all right looking for a bodybuilder chick, oh wait what ‘interracial match’, ‘Japan cupid’, ‘latin american cupid’, ‘bi-cupid’, wow dude like this is wild.
17:55.36
Ryan:
Um, Wow Ok geez. Wow. There's so many, wow ‘millionaire match’. Yeah.
18:08.45
Robb
‘Millionaire match’. You know there's got to be a lot of people on that one. Ah oh my goodness. This is, this is what stop it. There's one called ‘Secret Benefits’ and it's for people looking for sugar daddies.
18:13.10
Ryan:
Of course I'm a millionaire. Um.
18:20.61
Ryan:
Um God Damn it really no.
18:27.56
Robb
Oh my god and this won't go, ‘sugardaddy.com’ I'm dead I'm done, I'm done dude I'm done, yo I can't this is so wild. Oh ah, wow I'm so I'm like dude I'm, I'm ah.
18:37.78
Ryan:
Yo. This is such a new world to me.
18:46.71
Robb
I gotta say oh my god there's a bdsm one, oh my god yeah, there's one called be ‘naughty’. Ah these names kill me. Wow.
18:48.95
Ryan:
Um, you know? yeah of course it would be None ah for for that group be um. Um, oh man. So the bdsm may just get tied up. Ah, of course come on. Yeah.
19:05.97
Robb
Passion oh here we go ‘black people meet’. They gotta get one too there you go everybody else, got 1 Oh yeah, ‘bumble’, bumble I heard about that one that was from the person that made tinder they made bumble heard of that one. There's a lot of Christian ones I've seen.
19:18.53
Ryan:
Um, oh okay.
19:23.72
Robb
4 Christian ones.
19:24.58
Ryan:
Um, anyone for the protestants. Yeah.
19:27.18
Robb
I mean I mean hopefully the Christians find something they got 4 dating apps. Apparently that exist I mean damn clearly they need help hold on a None Why do they need dating apps. Can they just find somebody in their church isn't that like the whole thing if you're Christian?
19:31.88
Ryan:
Shit. Yeah oh my god.
19:40.33
Ryan:
Um, so yes and I feel like that's where I want to segue kind of because it's kind of like remember the conventional methods of, of going ahead and meeting someone and going. Yeah, you're nice.
19:45.63
Robb
In In fact.
19:49.29
Robb
Well yeah I mean like why would you be? Yeah like why would you be a Christian who clearly goes to church at least once a week at least Christians tend to go more than once what there's.
19:59.12
Ryan:
Um, at least right? Like full on Christians like not, not sinners like myself.
20:06.65
Robb
I mean I guess it's possible in the potentially and I mean I guess it's possible within the old one some odd people there. Maybe you can't find someone because possibly a lot of them are already married. So I guess maybe I could see that.
20:18.47
Ryan:
Um, just let's just go to another parish then.
20:23.10
Robb
I guess that's the thing It's like I wouldn't want to go anywhere else I like this church because this is my church. You know I guess maybe I can understand or that you know like presumably there may be a reverend to slash Pastor Slash whatever that that maybe you just.
20:27.25
Ryan:
Um, know his father Jacob tells the best sermons they're right right? right? yeah.
20:41.66
Robb
Connect with or that knows you you know best because you've told them all your awful sins at confession. Whatever if Christians confess I don't even know a thing? Yeah yeah.
20:45.49
Ryan:
I will will that right? Well well I know Catholics definitely do so. The father would be like “man just got lot of power, slay that slay it see what she can get.”
20:58.63
Robb
Yeah, so like it's all goods. Go do you and come in and yeah well I'll wipe those sins away we get. Um, yeah, see though I do understand ‘farmers only’.
21:04.26
Ryan:
Yeah I'll call father John for you right now telling me coming hook you up? No problem. You even know you don't even need to go on an app I got you? Yeah yeah, yeah.
21:17.97
Robb
That when I get lonely life. It's a lonely life. You know if you're especially if you're a single farmer and you're kind of like you know, maybe just recently inherited the farm from your parent from your dad or your mom or whatever.
21:21.99
Ryan:
Sure.
21:28.99
Ryan:
Um, right right? You have no time to date.
21:33.69
Robb
So I guess I could add that though it seems like that wouldn't be an issue I feel like they like whoever like if that happened it they're probably already married I don't know that's just I mean I guess maybe that's a stereotype I just feel like no but I feel like you know it happens to be a high school sweetie and then they just you know.
21:42.27
Ryan:
Um, but you think that's arranged or something with prior. Oh yeah, yeah.
21:51.69
Robb
Lock it up and that's that you know like this is our life. You know it's like kind of that understanding when you're in that culture. It's like well you know we're we're, we're farmers and this is this. This is just what we do you know? Yeah I don't know.
22:00.87
Ryan:
Um, yeah from the, no one man who knows I mean but.
22:05.84
Robb
Yeah, but there are a lot I mean dude I just yeah I just went through 10 pages of sites 1 1 2 3 4 5 6 and about 6 per page so about 60 dating apps. Ah.
22:11.12
Ryan:
Um, holy shit.
22:19.36
Ryan:
Home smokes. Wow.
22:23.92
Robb
Granted. There's a lot of um there is a lot of ah ah I would I'm not going to say duplicates but a lot of kind of like things that are kind of the same again like the Christian ones. There's like 4 Christian ones that I saw you know? yeah, but there are a lot that just have 1
22:34.50
Ryan:
Um, right? Got to be specific. Um, right? Well yeah, yeah, Well I mean you know you got to be respectful to the different right.
22:43.56
Robb
You know, kind of like the farmers only that is the only farmer one but Asians have like 2 or 3 in ah um, a yeah grant that is kind of all-encompassing you know I is just massive I mean you know maybe you're Mongolian looking for another Asian like what else. So.
22:59.76
Ryan:
Um, right? Yeah yeah, well I mean then there's you know Asia is a huge continent. There's who knew who knew ah, when all these started?
23:03.15
Robb
You know? Wow Um, why this is why I'll do I'm blown away I'm blown away this is crazy I Never realized there were so many. I don't know I mean they must have been I mean they've been around for a bit I mean I guess with the shift of the culture. Um I guess trying to make it find you know make it easier to find people I mean again, you know it's that it's that thing where.
23:18.74
Ryan:
I mean um if I guess.
23:32.42
Robb
You know I'm sure there were many men and many women you know going to bars doing it the conventional way that just you know couldn't you know lock it up or just couldn't find anyone for whatever reason which is interesting in big cities I find that very interesting in big cities that that could be an issue is that you can't find anyone.
23:41.96
Ryan:
Um, right.
23:49.89
rmcdonald63
Um, you just literally bump into somebody on the street. Yeah.
23:51.28
Robb
Um, considering there's so many? Yeah, yeah, yeah I mean yeah, but, but you know with the culture I mean especially now I feel like you know for women, it's difficult to have that you know oh I just pumped into you moment because at this point in time.
24:03.69
Ryan:
Um, oh right.
24:10.91
Robb
Women have become so accustomed to being catcalled and whatever that they that they're, they're on guard at all times. Um, you know at at the least they're getting a whistle a cat hull or something stupid is being said.
24:13.90
Ryan:
Um, yeah, right? which sucks? yeah.
24:29.78
Robb
And at the worst they're being grabbed or accosted or you know whatever you know like I mean they just have a range of things they have to worry about you know we have an absolute luxury being men because women don't do that to us. Um.
24:32.70
Ryan:
Um, yeah, now we're just let's fuck them.
24:43.66
Ryan:
Um, no, but imagine.
24:45.29
Robb
You know that just doesn't happen that that doesn't happen like that I mean and if it does not to say it doesn't I'm sure you know some men have been cackled or whatever but that is such a minority see but but it's such a minority. It's not talked about and on top of that there I feel like there is um.
24:51.30
Ryan:
Um, I've had my ass slapped right? right.
25:05.15
Robb
A yeah, an, I'm trying to search for the word but like if it happened to a guy. Um, it's almost like we're not allowed to be offended by it. You know there there is a certain kind of stigma there you go There is a stigma.
25:11.42
Ryan:
Um. Um, yeah, right right.
25:23.80
Robb
That if a woman cat calls us. We should appreciate it as opposed to be you know react. Basically the way a woman would if she were to be cat called like we and it's almost like we're not allowed to have that reaction because of you know.
25:32.77
Ryan:
Um, right. Um, yeah, we're guys and yeah.
25:39.65
Robb
Whatever the case you know what? Whatever the stigma is because we're men you know little easier. They're like oh I'll just get over it. You know? So yeah I mean I think that's why that that gets so, so tricky not to mention the horror stories of women just being in bars and.
25:53.10
Ryan:
Um, right? Yeah yeah, no.
25:55.96
Robb
Roofied or attacked or whatever like there's just so many so many hurdles that they have to kind of, bear in mind and and and I guess that's where it came from but then at the same time you know you you have now a new layer of Potential. What? Ifs. You know what? if this profile that I'm suddenly attracted to is not at all who I've been chatting with the last month you know? Yeah, it's It's a whole new layer of stuff. Yeah, yeah I don't know.
26:16.70
Ryan:
Um, exactly yes, yeah, it's not that it's not the real guy. So I mean it's it's difficult. Regardless I mean to not not to ah flip it for a None But.
26:30.22
Robb
It is.
26:36.56
Ryan:
You know going back to your point when it comes to you know the amount of hurdles that women have to go through um because you know there's assholes out there that you know unfortunately yes yes.
26:41.80
Robb
Mm.
26:46.69
Robb
Yeah, and quite a bit. Sadly, they're the loud ones. That's what makes it even worse is that the jerks who are the minority are the loudest. No.
26:55.34
Ryan:
Yes, exactly and it's making it harder for actual gentlemen to maybe approach someone Um, and then say hey um, would you like a drink or hey whatever I don't.
27:00.41
Robb
There. No.
27:12.61
Ryan:
I've been so out of the game for so long I don't even know what the fuck to say.
27:14.36
Robb
I I think I think the easiest is like, hey want to go to like a Starbucks and I feel like that's easy thing hey like you could say you want a coffee but so many people don't drink coffee in you could just say hey I want to go to Starbucks I'll get you a pineapple mango refresher. You know I mean.
27:19.15
Ryan:
Um, I mean yeah if it's during the day right? What? Ah oh my God I get you a pinkety drinking.
27:32.85
Robb
Ah, or you know say like there's options at Starbucks you know you wanted freaking chocolate milk. They got that too and I got you ah and touché yes.
27:36.78
Ryan:
Um, oh my God it's nest quicker nothing I will I will stick to my guns.
27:50.55
Robb
I hear that.
27:53.84
Ryan:
Oh man. Yeah yeah, and then it's funny because as I sit here. We're talking about this and all the dating apps and stuff and I'm I'm going back to ah when I was younger and just trying to figure out like how did I even get dates or.
28:06.60
Robb
Now.
28:12.81
Ryan:
I don't even remember like I obviously I remember when my wife and I well when she was my girlfriend at the time went on our dates of course. But you know prior to that I don't remember I think it was just like hangouts and shit.
28:19.34
Robb
Yay right? right? Um, yeah I mean I mean I don't I don't have you know. A long trail So It's not exactly difficult to to really kind of remember but I know most you know I remember a few were through friends. Um.
28:35.74
Ryan:
Um, right.
28:43.87
Ryan:
Um, right here.
28:49.22
Robb
1 I know, I worked with one in a performance. Ah, and another one was you know ah was what was was in person because of ah.
28:51.91
Ryan:
Are.
29:05.22
Robb
It was actually kind of like a twofold because it was like a friend of a friend ah and actually it was a friend of somebody I knew from high school and and they came to a show I went from when I you know for those that don't know I used to be in a heavy metal band. Um, and they came to a show and that's how that you know that that that.
29:07.20
Ryan:
Um, right? ah.
29:18.41
Ryan:
Um, you are there.
29:24.33
Robb
Situation kind of panned out but it was always for the most part in person or I knew them through a connection or we were just in each other's Blaster radius but yeah it was they were all in person. Yeah.
29:27.97
Ryan:
Um, right? ah.
29:36.20
Ryan:
Um, nice I I was a little um I was not that attractive. Let's just put it that and.
29:42.97
Robb
Ah, okay, ah, all right I mean I I definitely wasn't as attractive but I'm damn I'm damn charismatic I'll give you that right.
29:53.17
Ryan:
Um, well because all you have to do is say why on though and then I think you know you know you're you're set. Ah.
29:58.50
Robb
Just um, well you know I mean for the performance ones you know they saw me and they saw my skill you know and I feel like that's something that can be attractive when somebody's really good at something I feel like that that is an attractor and being in a band also helps.
30:16.77
Ryan:
Um, ah yes I want to sleep with you. Ah, yes, yeah, you do.
30:18.30
Robb
You know that was that was that was that was that was pretty easy and I have and having long hair I mean that's very uncommon in. Ah yeah I had a lot going for me. Yeah I mean I like to I like to say I'm way better now. Um I think I've.
30:32.30
Ryan:
Um, ah I will biasly say the same thing I I feel like I am so handsome and so awesome now because of the position that I'm in.
30:35.56
Robb
Heavily upgraded since then But. Ah, you know, yeah, totally ah right? Yeah, exactly. That's that do your keeper. Yeah, you're an unavailable keep. Yeah.
30:49.12
Ryan:
Married with kids. Ah I'm a gem I'm a keeper but not available. So how yes exactly. But.
30:59.23
Robb
It's funny because I tell because I I told um I told my wife the other day. It was fun for those that don't know I've had a very dramatic rate weight loss over the last two years but I told my wife I was like man you are so lucky it's like. When you married me, it's like you bought a Mercedes and like as time has gone on the Mercedes turned into like a Lamborghini like you're so lucky like yeah, like you already had a badass car and then I transformed into an even more badass car I'm like how ah lucky are you ah.
31:18.20
Ryan:
Um, ah damn right.
31:27.23
rmcdonald63
Um, yeah, transformer but that she agrees ex.
31:33.52
Robb
Like you're an as she's like you're an ass and I'm like I was nice though I could as I was a Volvo but I knew I was good I was a Mercedes I was a nice car that was a nice luxury cars just now i' ah, it just now I'm a sexy as hell sports car. You know people gonna you know you're gonna snap next riding this man.
31:41.91
Ryan:
Ah, told she agrees when she says that yeah. Um, damn right? Ah yeah, ah.
31:52.72
Robb
Ah, ah, but yeah, that's that's me and my own personal ego struking of course and her not and her laughing but not disagreeing So it's good. That's enough.
32:00.50
Ryan:
Um, that's perfect. No they that exactly I was going to say she's she when when they when they say stuff like that like you're an idiot or you're an ass that means they agree with you. Ah.
32:14.58
Robb
Yep, that's it's like I wasn't a disagreement. Ah you agree just don't want to say it and boost me up more come.
32:18.98
Ryan:
Ah. Now because you know any good wife would not increase our egos they have yes exactly they have to keep us down. They have to keep us settled. They don't want us floating to the crowds. Yeah.
32:28.17
Robb
Well, of course they got. They're the ones that have to keep us in check. No of course. Yeah, yeah, they got to keep they got to keep us still on Earth which is is funny because I told her I was like I think I told her that too I was kind of like that's why I married you you keep you keep you keep my feet on Earth You know what I'm saying I was like I couldn't have.
32:43.45
Ryan:
Um, right.
32:47.81
Robb
Been with somebody who saw who was like a fan of like me as a person like not like a fan you know I'm saying but like ah like that that was almost the relationship was that they're a fan of the things that I do because I do a lot. It's not hard to appreciate all the things that I've kind of dipped my fingers into but it's I.
32:49.58
Ryan:
Um.
32:58.70
Ryan:
Um, right.
33:04.55
Ryan:
Um, no yeah, yeah, exactly.
33:06.82
Robb
And want that though like that's not ah somebody I Want to have it in a relationship and saying I'm like we can be friends I'm totally cool with that. But like no I don't but no, that's weird that gets old that gets old after a while. Yeah yeah.
33:16.94
Ryan:
Um, yeah I mean I married my wife because she is the exact opposite of me when it comes to certain things because I am I am.
33:27.74
Robb
Yeah, nothing things that that works you know that's where opposite opposites attract I mean that's that's that that that that that term was it wasn't created for nothing.
33:35.41
Ryan:
Correct no correct and because of the fact that I'm such an overly optimistic person and she is a very much realist like she keeps it real like no you you.
33:41.38
Robb
3
33:49.30
Ryan:
You can't do that because of this this this but I'm like why? not we just have to have faith. It's gonna be Okay, it's gonna be fine. Yeah yeah, exactly we don't have the money we'll make it. It'll be okay, we'll it's gonna be fine. They won't.
33:55.33
Robb
She's like fuck your faith. We talk about Ax Jack ah is ah we'll figure it out stop it now.
34:08.38
Ryan:
Yeah, accept it now. Oh fine I guess we'll do your way if that's what it is.
34:12.57
Robb
Stop that God But yeah I mean but yeah I mean you know I think you know I feel like it's that kind of thing where dating apps just to go back to the combo.
34:28.65
Ryan:
Um, right right? um.
34:31.12
Robb
Ah, feel like dating apps are like the fad diets of relationships. Yeah, you know what I'm saying like you know, like there's a way to lose weight. Everybody knows how to do it.
34:39.16
Ryan:
Um, Wow Yeah, that makes sense. Um.
34:47.97
Robb
You don't need to see a nutritionist. You don't need to see a doctor unless you have some kind of medical condition if you are just overweight because you're overweight you know how to lose the weight like that's just its just common sense. It's literally common sense. Everybody knows how to do it. You know? Um, but.
34:50.90
Ryan:
Um, right.
34:56.49
Ryan:
Um, right? yeah.
35:07.91
Robb
If you want a quick result you might buy a workout program or you might buy weight loss supplements or you might join. A weight loss group like a weight watchers or you might do a meal system like Nutri-system or you know like or you might find a celebrity diet where you could lose £10 in a week or you know £30 in in two weeks doing this all liquid diet I mean I mean.
35:25.54
Ryan:
Um, right? yeah.
35:39.48
Ryan:
Um, oh so many? Thanks Jenny Craig are
35:39.56
Robb
How many diets exist? So many keto paleo this that Jenny great wait, watch it like there's so many different ways to lose weight and ultimately those are the dating apps of fitness.
35:52.65
Ryan:
Um, yeah.
35:54.61
Robb
You know those were created to be the silver bullet to what to you to what you want you know and I feel like that's what dating apps I Feel like that's what how they kind of be began. It was like. Yeah, you know you have to probably put yourself out there and yeah, you know you probably have to go to a bar or a social some kind of social gathering where speaking to other people you know has to be massaged to.
36:23.63
Ryan:
Um, right.
36:25.86
Robb
Potentially see where they are at or their intentions or if this is somebody worth wasting your time on or whatever the case save all of that and just jump on this site and find somebody else that wants to do that wants The same thing you do.
36:30.95
Ryan:
Um, yeah, yeah.
36:40.26
Robb
Without the hullabaloo of having to go out and spending money and getting dressed up in this and then the other chat while you're each other in your own underwear and then when you finally want to meet because this is ultimately what you wanted then you get dressed and at least you, you're both on the same equal footing.
36:46.90
Ryan:
Um, yeah.
36:54.17
Ryan:
Um, yeah.
36:56.73
Robb
It's that’s what it is. That's what it's the Silver bullet to relationships. It just doesn't always work that way just like fad diets they work and then you gain the weight again it happens. Yeah, that's what it is. They were created as the Silver bullets and then that.
37:03.80
Ryan:
Um, hit and it's like oh man.
37:13.61
Robb
You know that's not actually what they were.
37:13.66
Ryan:
Um, right I and I totally forgot about speed dating too. Yeah, it was I think its still thing. Yeah, well no because it's like.
37:17.98
Robb
Oh my God right? That was huge I mean its still is that I mean it's still a thing right? Yeah I don't know if it's as as big as it used to be but I know it. But yeah, that was that was absolutely a thing too. You know and matchmakers man they made.
37:33.21
Ryan:
Um, yes, so much.
37:35.67
Robb
So much money you know like that was a racket I mean there was a whole show Millionaire Matchmaker Millionaires are looking for love and they're trying to find somebody who's not gonna get into a relationship with them to steal all their money.
37:46.91
Ryan:
Um, yeah, yeah, yeah.
37:50.36
Robb
You know I mean that's absolutely a fear if you're somebody you know in the upper elite tier of income is that how do I trust who I'm going to be with you know how do I know this person isn't going to try and trap me or.
38:02.28
Ryan:
Um, yeah, this angle.
38:04.90
Robb
You know or what if they're not about prenuptials because prenuptials are you know that's a faux paw to some people because of true quote unquote tradition when reality is people got to protect themselves. You know I'm saying yes so it's yeah, it's very, it's interesting. But yeah I mean I think.
38:15.80
Ryan:
Um, right right? I agree. Yeah.
38:23.79
Robb
You know through our conversation I, I think I think that's kind of what I've settled on. Yeah I think that's what dating apps were meant to be they were that they're the celebrity diets the fad diets the weight watchers of dating.
38:28.57
Ryan:
Um. Um, yeah, that's such a great correlation that so that makes so much sense. Ah countless.
38:37.83
Robb
Yeah, yeah, because again, there's so many there's just so many? Yeah you know dude I'm telling you there were 60 I was looking at 60
38:49.14
Ryan:
And you just name like 40 that I never even heard of oh boy.
38:55.86
Robb
Like that's crazy 60 different dating apps and people granted 60 different dating apps. Not to say you could use all of them obviously but 60 exist and people who still can't find someone.
39:03.51
Ryan:
What Jesus. Ah, well and that just brings to another point that I wanted to make like so you have you tell I guess whatever app you're using, um, what your interests are what what you're looking for and then basically you're trying to find someone that is similar to you.
39:13.16
Robb
M.
39:29.12
Robb
That's right right.
39:29.39
Ryan:
Sort of sense which is why would you want to date someone that is like you like you're just basically you're just finding somebody and it's not always the case. Maybe some you can like change the settings to not have it like you have something opposite because if you're.
39:44.34
Robb
Yeah, yeah, probably.
39:48.00
Ryan:
But basically like the most common thing that you always hear is like ah just want to find someone who's funny who's how Billy who likes to take long walks to the middle of fucking nowhere you know shit like that.
39:56.00
Robb
Woo. Yeah yeah.
40:03.86
Ryan:
And it's always it's always to go to and it's like all right? Well come back to reality because no, one's like that and that's why it's I feel like these dating app as well as they're great for those who are ah.
40:07.76
Robb
Yeah.
40:16.92
Robb
Right? right.
40:21.30
Ryan:
Don't have the confidence to actually put themselves out there in the world and try to find someone but at the same time. It's a double edged sword because it's like you're basically trying to look for someone that in reality isn't what you need or what you want. Actually you.
40:23.19
Robb
Yeah, um.
40:37.34
Robb
Um, oh true. Ah right? Ah, yeah problem I mean that or the person does exist but they're probably ah such a top-tier individual that.
40:40.20
Ryan:
You haven't you have an idea of who that you want but that person doesn't exist.
40:52.14
Ryan:
Um, right? Okay, yeah.
40:54.89
Robb
Chances are they have their pick of the litter already or or are already in a relationship you know, like perfect example like you know I mean do any survey of women and ah you know a large you know a large contingent of them are going to say that they want a man that's you know six foot taller.
41:11.84
Ryan:
Um, ah yeah, which.
41:13.92
Robb
Um, he has to be successful in whatever his career is I e he has to be paid. Um, and you know and then you know it'll splinter off from there but you know realistically you know men that are over six feet are already.
41:19.38
Ryan:
Jesus.
41:32.70
Ryan:
Um, right? Yeah yeah, yeah.
41:32.29
Robb
A very small minority of men like you've already taken your pool of men down to a very small pool now what's worse is that the majority of women which is a very large pool wants the attention of this very small pool of men.
41:48.84
Ryan:
Um, yeah, yeah.
41:51.75
Robb
Now let's also add the layer that these men have to be successful. Let's just say now let's just say successful equates to a hundred thousand dollars plus you just took that pool and dropped it down to its like top 10%
41:54.25
Ryan:
Um, now you just narrowed it more.
42:08.27
Ryan:
Um, yeah.
42:11.15
Robb
Let's just say because ultimately the top 10% of men in the United States um make ah in an in and around none and up per year. That's just that's the top 10% of all men in the United States that's
42:20.73
Ryan:
Um, right. Um, who are yeah this is what I'm saying right.
42:28.28
Robb
Over 300000000 men 10% of that 300000000 fit that salary quota now adding the layer of the height and you're talking about such a small contingent of men that. The majority of women all want what are the chances that you're going to find that guy or that he doesn't have None women. He's slaying because they all want him. You know, saying like like you know because I feel like that's that's another thing to with dating apps is that you're looking for what you want, but.
42:49.78
Ryan:
Um, now an exactly. Yes, yeah.
43:05.39
Robb
What you want may not necessarily be what you can have? Yeah I understand because yeah, no, absolutely you know because I could tell you for a fact on paper just off of like you know? Ah well let's just say just on paper.
43:06.94
Ryan:
Um, right exactly that I mean that's the point I'm trying to make. Yeah.
43:23.69
Robb
If you were to just present me to my wife. She wouldn't have she wouldn't have gave me the green light I can tell you that and no well and it's not a bad thing. You know it's no critique on her. It's just she had a type that she knew she was attracted to which was a tall guy and who was.
43:27.90
Ryan:
Ah, Wow Harsh. Ah, yeah, yeah, no I know. Um, right? Are oh Wow, Really? Okay.
43:42.19
Robb
Preferably of a darker skin tone than I am yeah that that was her type. He was a tall tall dark and handsome that was her type in which I am not not to say I'm short but I'm definitely shorter than six feet and I'm only none
43:57.18
Ryan:
Are.
43:59.40
Robb
And I am definitely not a dark-skinned Latino I am pretty light-skinned for you know for a Latino um you know, but it worked you know because we met through a mutual friend and we spoke and we had fun and we developed a relationship had you just saw me on paper on a dating site. She would have swiped.
44:07.62
Ryan:
Um, right.
44:13.96
Ryan:
Um, yeah. Um, yeah, exactly.
44:19.35
Robb
Right? Or left or whatever this whatever the one I don't want is and that would have been that my one saving grace was that I was chunky. She like chunky guys that was my 1 saving Grace I was you know I was I was I was chunky at the time so that worked you know.
44:27.65
Ryan:
Um, there you go? Well I and even that yeah I feel like that's such that’s common and yet not spoken maybe because it always like we just mentioned it before that a lot of opposites attract.
44:39.69
Robb
Um.
44:45.50
Robb
Um, right right? right? right? Well you did but their preference. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
44:47.56
Ryan:
Like skinny girls go after bigger guys. Ah Skinny guys go after bigger girls or or not go after but like you know, right? right? Yes, Thank you? Thank you for correcting me. Um and it's ah. Like it's funny that you um, mentioned your situation because at first when my man my wife none met me. Ah she actually hated me and she will admit it to anyone that asked she absolutely hated me.
45:19.55
Robb
That's funny.
45:20.17
Ryan:
I would have never been hurt her type or none pick or anything if especially on a dating app. Yeah, who was swipe swiped swipe whichever way to project me as quickly as possible.
45:22.29
Robb
Um, yeah, there you go whatever direction is yeah, you see what I'm saying but look how that turned out you know I'm saying.
45:33.79
Ryan:
Um, yeah, no after you know a couple after a couple dates and just hanging out like you and your wife which got to know me I got to know her and then just you know the passion was there then you know happily ever after.
45:39.65
Robb
Yeah, it just happens. Yeah, yeah, absolutely you know and I feel like that's a thing that dating apps won't ever be able to capture. Yeah because you're already being subjective off on you know at jump.
45:50.26
Ryan:
Now they lack that? yeah.
45:56.53
Ryan:
Correct. Yes.
45:59.29
Robb
I Mean how many people you know, develop relationships with people that they don't even consider possibly romantically being tied to this person because that's what dating apps are whoever I see here I plan to be romantically you know connected to this person I never thought that when I met my wife.
46:06.83
Ryan:
Um, right right? Yeah yeah.
46:17.52
Robb
When I met my wife I was like no, she's just a friend then it was very much that I had no feelings towards her in that way I was like Nah we're just we're just cool you know and then eventually and then eventually you know things changed you know, over time you know and I saw her differently. She saw me differently. You know that's.
46:19.81
Ryan:
Um, we.
46:25.16
Ryan:
Um, little did you know? yes.
46:37.16
Robb
That you don't get that luxury when you know you're on a dating app and and I feel like that could be. You know there could be a a lot of potential relationships that are not happening because people are on dating apps. You know again, not to totally you know so you know squash them. You know them.
46:37.52
Ryan:
Um, no.
46:48.96
Ryan:
Um, no, no because there are success stories.
46:55.90
Robb
Clearly served their yeah they have clearly served their purpose but they are definitely not infallible or at least I'm not convinced of it.
47:00.55
Ryan:
Um, right? Yeah well I mean like if we our opinion wouldn't matter because we're married. We're married and we're never going to use these correct. We're not going to even use that actually whatsoever happy.
47:09.30
Robb
Well obviously but the podcast, your opinion absolutely matters. Yeah, oh well. Yeah I mean it's not like we can review them and be like this this the interface on this one. I don't, you, I don't give a shit I just think dating apps in General. Let's say the idea of the dating app.
47:19.10
Ryan:
Any time and give a give a review on that one so not happening I yeah.
47:34.88
Robb
Ah, is it has potential and at the same time I think it has potential to have negative effects I think like anything else, you know.
47:40.39
Ryan:
Um, yeah, yeah, no I agree I mean even doing it. Um, you know meeting someone without a dating app has its ah you know risks involved as well failures.
47:49.25
Robb
But yeah I'm interested to know how many people have been on dating apps and ended up in a relationship that was not through the dating apps I would love to know.
48:02.25
Ryan:
Um, ah right? Oh yeah, like yeah.
48:09.40
Robb
Ah, those stories I think those would be interesting like I've tried this dating app and this dating app and I went on dates and I just didn't find a connection and sure enough the person that I ended ah like getting with was my brother's you know co-worker who happened to come to a family barbecue once.
48:25.72
Ryan:
Um, right? yeah.
48:27.51
Robb
You know, like something crazy like that you know like wow like you've been searching for love and little did you know that it was just gonna walk into your house one day like that's crazy. You know I'm sure that must have happened I'd love to hear stories like those. So.
48:31.68
Ryan:
Um, it it was right there. Yeah now that's that's and that would be such, such a great story to listen to.
48:43.78
Robb
Yeah, totally I think those would be interesting. You know again, not not to not to shit on dating apps. But you know they they serve they serve a purpose. They serve a function but they're I I don't think they're personally I don't think they're necessary.
48:51.40
Ryan:
Um, who are we to be completely shitting on them? It's fine. We will say we're completely shitting on them. But.
49:02.28
Robb
Um I I guess so I guess so I I guess you know again I don't want to say that they don't have their success. They have their success. You know it's It's obvious I Just think they're unnecessary. Yeah yeah I don't I don't think you need them I think I think.
49:09.67
Ryan:
Um, no yeah, no, they do they do right? I agree as well and I call us old fashion. But.
49:21.30
Robb
Yeah I think I think the emergence of the dating app has actually ruined regular dating to ah to a capacity and I'm saying.
49:25.61
Ryan:
Um, yeah I could see that well because it's kind of like you know you're looking. We've mentioned it already. You're looking for something specific and you're like.
49:35.35
Robb
Right? Which in and of itself is a dangerous way to go into things I think right exactly and.
49:41.50
Ryan:
Um, right? Yeah because your mindset is already on the perfect guy or the perfect girl.
49:49.82
Robb
Ah, yeah, and it could be negative in the sense that you're the nobody you meet is ever going to fulfill that expectation or you may brainwash yourself into thinking that this person does fit it and they're absolutely wrong for you and I'm saying. Ah yeah.
50:01.94
Ryan:
But exactly yes either. They're psychotic or just a regular asshole just using you shitty person. What's yeah, yeah, exactly.
50:09.43
Robb
Or they're yeah like they're just not as great as you're hyping them up and then your friends are like what you are doing with this person. What are you doing with them? You know I'm sure that has I'm sure that happens as well. You know za.
50:20.76
Ryan:
Um, yeah, yeah, no so have good friends is what we're trying to say have good friends. No we suck? yes.
50:26.50
Robb
Yeah I think that that's always a great way to do it. You know is like to have friends I mean and if you're looking for Love don't have married friends because chances are we have married friends. So.
50:40.72
Ryan:
Yes, no sorry.
50:40.81
Robb
We have no friends for you single friends? Sorry but our friend pool literally gets married is either already married or getting married as we're getting married like that's just how it works out. Yeah, it just works out that way your circle ends up all getting married up ah in and around the same time.
50:50.69
Ryan:
Um, exactly yes. Um, oh and then it gets worse when those married couples have kids. Oh no, not at all, we don't have time for them. But ah.
51:00.24
Robb
No yeah, then it's yeah then at that point you definitely have no single friends. No All all single friends have been eradicated from your life. No, it's True. It's true and it's Funny. You know as. As ah as a parent I you know I think this would be ah, a great podcast. Ah a you know topic one day but we should talk about what it's like when single single people try to befriend us as married people because that is that is a very true that is a very very.
51:25.20
Ryan:
Um, oh yeah, that would be a great topic.
51:32.60
Robb
And I don't want to say tricky but but it it is a very difficult. They are difficult relationships to create and maintain without feeling like somebody is being slighted somewhere. So I think that'd be a great topic to talk about? Yeah I think that'd be a good one.
51:38.36
Ryan:
Um, oh sure. Yeah, yeah, no I know I got a pencil that in yeah and I would and I would love to get a guest on for that one just.
51:50.94
Robb
Oh yeah, that would actually be awesome preferably a single person. Yeah, just to have that that perspective well hopefully a single person who's you know had who has had or has tried to be friends with married people.
51:56.74
Ryan:
Ah, preferably.
52:06.48
Ryan:
Um, or wants to even I don't want to be friends with you assholes. Yeah, guys are so boring you and your damn dad jokes I am tired.
52:09.26
Robb
And know how or wants to even yeah, exactly it's like I want to be friends of married people that guys are boring. We can don't do anything I All right I've showing me pictures your kids nobody cares. Ah.
52:25.68
Ryan:
Nobody Yeah, exactly nobody cares. How many times are gonna show me little boy? Yeah and I try to you know.
52:27.90
Robb
And what he gives us shit like I get it your kid loves Hotdogs, Nobody cares.
52:42.18
Ryan:
As a married man and a father I try to be conscious of those who are single that do not are married and don't have kids and I don't you know so good example where I'm trying to get it is at work I don't. Show off my pictures of my kids to anyone you know I don't parade them like look how great my child is can you believe my daughter is practically running and she's None did you see that you see the video I don't I don't like doing that.
53:15.93
Robb
Yeah, it's true. Yeah.
53:18.27
Ryan:
Because I like again like you just mentioned Phil gives a shit. No one cares just going I mean the only one to really care obviously is me and then obviously my close friends like yourself. But.
53:26.69
Robb
Yeah, of course yeah, it's yeah, no, no I Totally get that and I and I try not I I mean I don't I don't like you know people usually ask me about my kids and usually it's females that are more interested in them in possibly seeing them.
53:40.34
Ryan:
Um, right? Yeah yeah, yeah.
53:44.28
Robb
Ah, but yeah I never offer like showing pictures and or videos I'm just like they're good. They're alive and breathing so they're doing well but they're functioning humans. Apparently so all the gears are clear. Are you know all the gears are moving so they're good? Ah.
53:47.91
Ryan:
Um, yeah, they're fine. Yeah yeah, yeah, exactly Yeah, there's.
54:03.15
Robb
You know I not to go into too many details because you know I try to always go at it from the perspective. It is like it's like I have a clock in my head if I've been talking about a topic for too long I get bored and if I'm bored and sorry that person has been bored a while ago. So it's kind of like you know and.
54:14.12
Ryan:
Um, yeah.
54:22.22
Robb
I'll ah mean you'll you'll hear me like slowly drop the subject. Yeah, especially when people ask me like hey so what kind of things. Do you do? I'm like I'm like yeah that's a can of worms I'm like I do a lot and I kind of leave it at that I do a lot.
54:24.16
Ryan:
Um, yes, okay no I mean it's respectful. Oh no, yeah yeah, get I sometimes get asked the ah.
54:38.98
Robb
Ah, try to keep it open ended.
54:43.57
Ryan:
So what do you do for work type question I'm like oh I don't want to? yeah.
54:43.91
Robb
Yeah, that's ah, that's always a can of worms I mean I mean don't get me wrong I Love what I do but you know then yeah then you but then you end up going down a trail of questions like oh have I heard you oh have I done this Oh have you done that What are you doing? It's kind of like.
54:58.17
Ryan:
Um, oh man. Yes, keep your ears out. You know.
55:00.61
Robb
Listen Man the the voice you're hearing is what I do that's about as good as it gets I'm not I'm not I'm really not doing anything special like yeah like I'm not you know I'm not like a crazy amazing like impressionist I'm like that's a very small minority of people that you know that that do what I do So it's like.
55:15.73
Ryan:
Um, ah, nice. Yes, or do you? ah.
55:18.51
Robb
Ah, you're hearing it for free. Just be happy about that but be be happy. You get to hear my voice and not have to pay. Ah, all right? or do you ah this sentence by Rob Sponsored by
55:34.34
Ryan:
Watch your credit card tapping in now. Yeah, oh what you turned into a different person I didn't.
55:45.96
Robb
And all right, There's like no I didn't no I didn't.
55:52.88
Ryan:
Oh man. Ah, that was so I think we pretty much nailed you know, nailed it on the head in regards to dating apps and stuff and you know they have they have their pros and they have their cons I Know we yes.
55:56.86
Robb
Yeah I think um, yeah. Yeah, like and like anything else. But I think you know I can say I can say that for the both of us we we we don't see them. We don't see the benefit of them but probably because we've not reused them. So yeah, we've never used them.
56:17.78
Ryan:
Um, no well yeah because of the position that we're in. We're totally biased. Yes, yeah, we're we're We're the lucky ones.
56:24.27
Robb
You know, clearly we found love on our own with you know with no issue. So yeah I mean ah yeah, nay our wives are the lucky ones they know that.
56:33.53
Ryan:
Well, we would think we're the lucky ones damn right? They got themselves a diamond in the rough.
56:40.10
Robb
Ah, oh yeah, damn right? Baby. Oh ah, oh boy.
56:49.89
Ryan:
Especially my wife when I turned into a dad. Oh I turned into a whole new person. It was fantastic. You have gifted me the greatest gift could have ever received. Yes.
56:59.50
Robb
Ah. Dad Jokes Dad Jokes on tap, let’s drink in the corny.
57:09.11
Ryan:
Ah. Ah, yes, speaking of which.
57:15.75
Robb
And look good I know I know I know I planned that segue for you. You're welcome.
57:23.56
Ryan:
Thank you, Thank you I don't know why do you? It's like you dread this part of the show.
57:31.26
Robb
Um I I kind of do because I know the joke is always gonna be painful for me I know the audience loves it I know we have listeners that love to hear me cringe every single time and know I will never be ah I will never not cringe. So.
57:40.23
Ryan:
Um, every. Um, that but this one is going to be very quick, I promise it's like ripping off a band Aid. It's a delivery I know it's a delivery.
57:49.90
Robb
There We are.
57:54.57
Robb
So no, it's It's not about the the speed that annoys me but no, it's not the delivery. It's just that they exist. Ah.
58:06.57
Ryan:
Ah, ah oh shit that was great and the end of podcast. Yeah well.
58:13.52
Robb
Ah, no, but I'm ah I am awful. Alright right? It's good.
58:23.34
Ryan:
I have to tell well what I have to say to you Good Sir is ‘Rest in Peace boiling water. You will be mist.’
58:33.96
Robb
Really not even a question. It's like um I don't even need to participant on the corniness of this one.
58:41.40
Ryan:
Um, what you didn't think that was a cool joke.
58:45.46
Robb
The fact that you followed up with another one I'm done and this, end this episode now. Okay goodbye. Ah.
58:50.49
Ryan:
Um, let's chill again some time. Yeah, so goodbye everybody? Yeah.
59:02.95
Robb
Ugh.
